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Post by Violet Twlilight on Jul 4, 2008 17:19:44 GMT -5
So I have met a guy who I think is perfect for me. He's cute, smart and the weirdest person I've ever met. He says strange things, speaks his mind, likes to take his clothes off....(yeah like I said he's a weird guy...) and he loves hugs...
But there is a problem.
My mom asked me the other day: "What if Jermiha is gay?" Now it's been really bothering me, I mean he never set off my 'gaydar'...but I maybe missing the signs because I like him so damn much. He claims to be straight but open minded and he's no homomorphic...the way he jokingly flirts with his gay friends all the time proves that. He flirts with girls too, but he maybe bi. That doesn't bother me in lest seeing as I'm bisexual...but if he's gay I don't want to confuse him by trying to make him like me...
This would be so much easier if I didn't like effeminate men.
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Post by lostmaiden on Jul 7, 2008 12:06:24 GMT -5
Donno what to say, i never met a gay guy before, you should pay attention to him some more a while and then if you two are close enough, maybe you should tell him that you have feeling sfor him. You can still be friends if he tells you that he is actually gay.
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Post by Violet Twlilight on Jul 7, 2008 15:44:01 GMT -5
Yeah I figured that, it just sucks because I really like him.
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Post by lostmaiden on Jul 8, 2008 0:53:30 GMT -5
Well, I hope he's straight or bi, that would not be a problem for you. I'm really glad you are in love tho. You like your new home, huh?^^
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Post by Violet Twlilight on Jul 8, 2008 11:12:17 GMT -5
Yeah, things are do9ing pretty well. Having some bad drama with friends though...ugh...I hate being a teenager and being mature enough to know that I'm acting immature.
Love stinks, yes it's lovely sometimes but at the moment I'm calling it a right bastard...I may get to see Miha on Friday though, which would be great.
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Post by Lucy on Jul 8, 2008 20:03:30 GMT -5
Would you be okay with it if he were bi?
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Post by Violet Twlilight on Jul 8, 2008 22:46:37 GMT -5
Yes of course. I'm bi myself.
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Post by lostmaiden on Jul 10, 2008 7:21:46 GMT -5
Yeah, I know how you feel very well, Violet. Still, sometimes we act immature because we want to avoid a serious situation/discussion. Being seriouse can also hurt, but it hurts less than revealing our heart and soul to someone and risk to be stumbed upon. Tell u what. Talk to one of his friends and try to find out stuff about him. Like if he's gay or bi, or if u 2 get to b good friends, then you can ask him/her to place some hints about your feelings for him in their conversations.
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Post by Lucy on Jul 12, 2008 20:03:50 GMT -5
Does he know you're bi? Because if it came up on the conversation he might say something to you about it if he knew how you felt.
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Post by Violet Twlilight on Jul 17, 2008 19:29:31 GMT -5
Yeah, I should tell him that I like him. But it's kind of weird because like I said he tends to avoid me. I've barely spoken to him so he may take what I say the wrong way. I think he knows I'm bi, but than again a lot of my straight female friends act the way I do with each other for shock value so he may think it's an act.
Thank you guys for your advise. I think I need too talk to him anyway, just about the way he acts around me. I'm thinking of just asking him if he thinks I'm annoying or if I just bother him and if so I'm sorry and I'll try to stay out of his way.
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Post by Lucy on Jul 21, 2008 22:31:42 GMT -5
How have things gone? Did you tell him?
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Post by Violet Twlilight on Aug 4, 2008 23:12:05 GMT -5
no...It's never the right moment. It's like when I'm around my friends it's chaos and unless everyone is rally bored and we start talking deep stuff there is no real time to have a heart to heart.
I think I'm too scared to actually tell him we need to talk because like I said, we haven't talked much and it would come off weird.
BUT he did give me a willing hug! teetee my friend Joe got on the other side and I was a sandwich!
God being crushed between two beautiful boys is very fun.
gah i'm a whimp.
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Post by Lucy on Aug 5, 2008 18:43:17 GMT -5
Hm. Do you think you'll ever be able to tell him, or are you going to wait and see if he talks first?
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Post by Violet Twlilight on Aug 6, 2008 0:41:03 GMT -5
I'm planning on telling him when I feel safe in our friendship. I want to get to know him better away, and I don't want to scare him off before he can really see I'm a cool person, you know?
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Post by Lucy on Aug 6, 2008 18:57:32 GMT -5
Yeah, it makes sense. Sometimes rushing into things scares people off. So maybe if you play it cool things will go more smoothly.
Also, sometimes when we pretend we don't care, that makes us even more attractive. It's the old cliche of hard-to-get. Cliche or not, it still works.
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